Choosing My Family Instead of Social Media

Last week I was going strong on my social media sites. I was excited about getting this new blog up and started. I was sharing my FACEBOOK page with my friends and inviting them to follow it. I was posting stories on Instagram and learning how to interact with my followers.

Suddenly it was Thursday. I found myself sitting on the couch in the living room with my cellphone in my hand. I was scrolling everywhere I could and supposedly watching a movie with my three kids and my husband.

I was being “efficient” and trying to get things done while we were spending supposed quality time as a family. Suddenly I felt a little hand take my phone away. My first response was to get upset. “No! You can’t play that dino game that you always ask for!”

Then time suddenly froze. My 2 year old, put my phone off to the side and put my hand in his. My heart melted. My child didn’t want to play with my phone, he wanted to hold Mommies’ hand while he watched the movie.

I can’t remember what we were watching, I only remember the desire I saw in my little boy’s face to be with his Mommy. That look sent my heart into a tail spin.

I knew in that moment that as I start out on this journey of blogging and learning social media I need to set boundaries. I do not want my family to suffer so that my number of followers will soar.

I will always choose him!

Once I read an article from Focus on the Family that talked about how to connect more with your kids in a world focused on technology. I thought about this article as I sat there beside my son.

The article talked about how many kids say they can’t open up to their parents because the parents are too busy and they are always on their phones.

This is not the reality I want in my family. I want my boys to know and feel that they are more important than anything that could be on a screen.

It was hard for me to not post pics this weekend of our Quarantine Easter. I may still post some but I made a decision last week to enjoy the moments with my family without always having a camera in my hand.

I will need to make a schedule and routine of when to write blogs and to post on Instagram so that I can keep things under control.

I know that just like any hobby or business there will be busier seasons. There will be times where I invest my time to work ahead and schedule posts so that I can be ready.

I will still invest in this dream that God has placed on my heart. This dream of encouraging other moms in this epic journey of raising boys.

What are you doing in your family to keep healthy boundaries with electronics and screen time?!?


Finding Joy in the Unexpected

Today my hubby and I were suppose to be traveling to Japan for an amazing getaway, JUST THE TWO OF US. We had our tickets bought and we were in contact with friends we would visit.

Grandma and Grandpa had taken vacation days at work and they were ready to do us a HUGE favor! (Let’s face it, watching three boys can require a lot of energy.) And they were up for the task.

Japanese Cherry Blossom

We had been dreaming about seeing the Cherry Blossoms opening up and being there to take pics in person. They are so beautiful!

And more than anything we were dreaming about some time as husband and wife. We could travel light and leave the stroller and diapers behind.

We could visit restaurants that were different and taste new delicacies without bribing little people to eat vegetables so they could have some artificial fruit snacks.

Instead, today my big getaway will be traveling to the grocery store in hopes of finding coffee creamer and hand soap-hopefully a big bottle with moisturizer! (Are your hands as dry as mine are?)

Today’s reality isn’t what I expected. Our family of five is together everyday all day and we are regularly forcing the kids to eat slimy food like tomatoes. Telling them to get out of the pantry where they could snack all day if we let them. (Some days I do, no judgement here ;))

It’s surreal how quickly things have changed in all of our lives.

These changes have caused me to evaluate what is going on in both my mind and my heart. Is it okay for me to wish I had somewhere to go? Is it okay that I’m hiding in a room and locking the door? I feel like my life is under a microscope and there is no where to escape.

It is also forcing me to dig into my identity and my worth. Am I a good mom? Are my boys watching too many videos or playing too many video games? What will others say about me if they see the homework my boys are turning in during distance learning?

These are all real thoughts and feelings that I’m sure many of us are dealing with right now. And we can add fear and uncertainty to the list to really shake us up in whatever season of motherhood we find ourselves in.

But today I am going to CHOOSE JOY even though I may not feel it. I believe that where my thoughts are my actions and feelings will follow.

I will choose Joy because my kids constant grazing in the kitchen means we have food to eat. My hiding out in rooms of our house means I have people who want to spend time with me.

Most importantly I choose joy because I know that better days are coming! I know that on the other side of this challenging time I will be a stronger woman, wife and mother!

James 1:2 (MSG)

Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. YOu know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.